Now that I have reached a stage in life when maturity is definitely on my side, I have been able to see how the youngsters are starting to develop (or in some cases are unable of developing) mature decision-making skills. Although children and teenagers have a tendancy to feel that they are ‘grown’, when real life situations are thrown upon them, there is a big difference between thinking you are an adult and being an adult, as many young people have yet to learn.
The stage from primary school to secondary school age has definitely changed from my days. The likelihood that the girls will be playing with Barbie dolls instead of their real-life ‘Ken’, has become rather unusual. I’m not tarnishing every young girl (and boy) with the same brush but, the age of promiscuity has dramatically dropped over the past decade.
Sex has been a major topic of discussion for decades as it is an industry which is constantly pushed in our faces, whether it be via the TV, magazines, newspapers or on the Internet. Whether we like it or not, sex is the biggest and longest industry in the world. The days when french kissing was seen as slightly promiscuous on TV, has led way to full-blown nudity, homosexual affection and the connotations of sex even being featured before the 9pm watershed hour.
Young people are no longer cherishing their childhoods, as they are in a race to be perceived as a grown up when in reality, they are not ready to deal with half the things that are thrown at you when you become an adult. Children nowadays want all the latest gadgets but are not willing to earn the pocket money that they deserve to save up and buy it themselves, as they know mummy and daddy dearest will buy them the latest Blackberries, PS3s and laptops. They are also ready to jump into bed with someone they have known for next to little time, as they feel pressured by peers or feel that they are ready to make this adult decision. It’s a sad affair when children as young as 11 and 12 are becoming pregnant, it shows that they are receiving a lack of education in preparation of becoming an adult.
I don’t want to lay all the blame with the parents, as so many of us are fast to do. I’m sure if you think carefully, there are friends you know who have brought up their children with the correct morals and yet their children are still running riot on the streets and still indulging in a touch of promiscuity.
Let’s be realistic, even if we teach our children the ‘proper’ way of enjoying their childhood, they still have their own minds and therefore can still decide to do things behind your back. As a parent, it’s hard to prevent your children from having their own individualism but at the same time, you want the best for them which doesn’t include having sex well before the legal age limit.
Emotionally, the majority of these young people are not ready to deal with the consequences of sex. My friend recently took her 13-year old daughter to the sexual health clinic for a check-up. Her daughter had admitted to losing her virginity to someone who had decided to share his glory with many more girls at around the same time. My friend’s daughter truly showed her age when she was taken to the clinic, as it was only then she realised the severity of what having sex entails.
When the nurse produced a plastic penis to demonstrate how to put on a condom, you never would have thought that was recently faced with the real thing, as she felt very uncomfortable. From someone who had thought they were so grown, she now appeared with the character of a 9-year old when she was faced with an adult situation.
Young teenagers need to be educated more, as having children at an early age is not only detrimental to the child who bore the child (that was a mouthful) but also to the grandparents who have barely seen their 40th birthday and yet have to now raise a newborn. Many young parents do not have that much needed attachment to their child, as the child has been a result of a sexual experience that didn’t have much meaning or because the grandparents of the young parent don’t trust them to be responsible for the baby and therefore allow their child to live their life as normal.
When I was 13, I was thinking about the fun I was going to have at school and the sleep-overs that I weren’t allowed to go to (as my Mother always let me know that my bed was waiting for me at home) and what I would be wearing to the school disco which finished while it was still bright outside. You know what discos I’m talking about, the ones where you were lucky if you got a can of pop, let alone be able to sneak outside and drink a can of cider! Oh how times have changed and it can only continue to get worst as the rate of people having children at a young age becomes alarmingly high.
Looking back, I was never taught about sex education in school, as it wasn’t something that we needed to learn about at that time in our lives. Whereas the sex education that is taught in schools today, is not preventing the fact that 19% of young people use the ‘withdrawal’method as their form of contraception*. It is an absoloute tragedy that 1 in 4 young people do not use contraception and 31% knows of a close family member or friend who has already experienced an unplanned pregnancy.
I dread to think what the next generation will turn out like if they have our present ones as role models. Taking time out to get to know someone has become a thing of the past, as many teenagers are known to go on holiday and think it’s okay to have a holiday fling (or five!). The Government have spent an ample amount of funding in trying to promote ‘safe sex’ and in trying to prevent ‘unwanted’ and ‘underage pregnancy’ and yet we are still facing the same issues as young people keep making the same decisions.
Education is the key to keeping our youths free from harm and detrimental to help them establish a respectable life as a upcoming adult. Yes, there are youngsters who have had children at a seriously young age and have been able to cope but realistically, the majority rely on parents and in most circumstances are left holding the baby as the other parent is not ‘ready’ to take on any responsibility.
Where will this predicament of underage promiscuity end? Is it the fact that people in general always try things that they are not supposed to or is the word ‘childhood’ just something that our younger generation will never appreciate or acknowledge?
Let me know your thoughts!
* The research was part of a worldwide survey of 5,223 respondents and was funded by Bayer Healthcare.