Like most people, I have been following the Presidency of Barack Obama over the last 18 months, and recently couldn’t help but notice the honeymoon is definitely over. Obama’s ratings are down and still declining and he is being criticised on all fronts from the handling of the BP oil disaster, Afghanistan, health legislation…and the list continues. David Cameron’s recent visit to the oval office had the British press dictating the agenda before he had even stepped foot on American soil. The media suggested that now was the time to be standing up to President Obama and stop being America’s poodle unlike the previous Government and call this ‘special relationship’ into check. It was almost as if they saw Obama as a wounded animal and now was the perfect time to strike. In fact what Mr Cameron did was put the relationship into perspective by calling the UK a junior partner, much to the annoyance of certain circles. And that was the end of that!
A year ago almost every world leader on the planet was beating a path to Obama’s door, all looking for that all important photo opportunity, perhaps to even elevate their own status. Last September as the President was delivering his address to Congress on the healthcare reform he was heckled by a Republican Congressman. Observers including his own party branded Joe Wilson ‘disrespectful’ and his comments ‘inappropriate’. There were lots of discussions later on talk shows etc asking the question – would this have happened if the President was white? As a child our parents taught us that in order to succeed in life, it was simply not enough to just get good grades, be polite, turn up on time etc. I was taught I had to be better. Get better grades, be a better person, be more polite, cleaner and tidier and if I did all those things I would be able to compete with my peers on most levels. Now thankfully, I had parents that believed in me and instilled good vision and values, which resulted in me being self driven, motivated and focused. And now, when I set my mind to do something I am certain I will achieve it.
Well what does that have to do with President Obama, I hear you ask? It is simply this – Even if you do all the above and more and reach the highest office in the land, become the top performer in your company, get the promotion you deserve, you will always have your critics. You will always have people waiting for you to fall, make mistakes; they criticise from the sidelines as they are never quite bold enough to go for things themselves.
But what we need to do is teach that your talent will open doors and get you so far, but it’s your character that will sustain you. When you fall and make mistakes, the power and development of who you are is in how you rise. Your critics will smell blood and be waiting for you to lash out in whatever way, so that they can say those famous words ‘I told you so’. But how will you deal with those situations? Will you succumb to peer pressure? Do what everybody else does? Give up? Quit? Lash out? Because if your motivation is driven out of the need to please people or prove people wrong, you will never really have long lasting rewarding success.
The CEO of Prudential Tidjane Thiam a former Ivory Coast Politician was described by The Times in March as a ‘Business Big Shot’ as he was attempting the audacious takeover of the Asian arm of AIG – AIA. He is the first black Chief Executive of a FTSE 100 company although according to the BBC he hates people dwelling on that fact. By June he had to face the wrath of the shareholders over the £450m cost of his failed takeover attempt. It was reported in all the business pages and they stated that his days were numbered. He is currently still Prudential’s CEO.
Oprah Winfrey according to Forbes 2010 International Billionaires List has a net worth of $2.3bn and is described as the richest black woman in the world, however that did not stop her 81-year old cousin Katherine Carr Esters from speaking to Kitty Kelly who was writing an unauthorised celebrity biography. Looking to unearth Oprah’s secrets the cousin states that she did not believe the abuse claims in Oprah’s childhood, claiming them to be false. Needless to say Kitty Kelly has been unable to secure interviews on shows such as Barbara Walters to Larry King.
It seems to me that successful people, particularly successful black people need to have thick skin and very broad shoulders as there is a heavy burden to carry that comes with success. It’s as if you are carrying the hopes and dreams of probably every black person on the planet that are hoping and praying you do well, mistakes are made in private and no cobwebs are lurking in the closet. It reminds me of the days when our parents came to this country and it was very difficult for them to feel a sense of belonging and one of the things my dad and his friends always loved was when the West Indies would beat England at cricket. In those days they didn’t just beat them they whipped their butts!
What those guys achieved was more than a win at cricket. It made those immigrants from the West Indies go into work the next day standing tall and holding their heads up high regardless of how they felt at work or what racist abuse they were going through. They maintained their dignity and carried on in the face of adversity. The flip side to this is when you watch the news and a crime has been committed you find yourself praying ‘please, please not a black person’ and the description follows and your heart sinks. You then feel yet again you then have to go into work and defend yourself to try to break down those typical stereotypes that you have been fighting against.
So often we look at what people have and we want those things with envy. Unfortunately for a lot of us, we don’t want the journey that goes with it as it can be a very lonely road. We don’t want to have do deal with the critics, the hard work and all those things associated with success. But these are the ingredients that build and grow us and I hate to say it, but all these things come with the territory!