Unless you’ve been living under a rock over the past few months or even weeks, you cannot fail to notice that the subject of race, diversity or immigration has been grabbing the headlines. Trevor Phillip’s recent article has provoked a debate about political correctness and the things we should or should not say. Whether or not you disagree with his comments, it has made me think about my own views when I was recently challenged when making a comment stating that “I prefer to date within my own race”. I was accused of being racist as I was discriminating one race over others.
As black woman, I am very proud of my culture and who I am. A lot of who I am is from my parents who instilled great values in me, including self worth and respect for others. I come from a long line of proud people, like my mother who educated me about my history. This gave me a sense of pride and appreciation that enabled me to love everything about my skin at a time when being young and black in Britain was sometimes seen as a curse.
Over the years, this has made me more appreciative of the struggles of my ancestors. When I decided to set my own PR business, 15 degrees almost 20 years ago, I wanted to champion those in society that were underrepresented, I wanted to make sure products and services effectively reached marginalised groups, so I chose to specialise in diversity. So what am I saying here? I love black art and dance, I love black movies, I love black soul food, I love to support black businesses, I love black men. I could go on and on. What I’m trying to get across is, that loving all these things and having a love of my culture does not make me anti everything else. I do not exclusively watch black movies, but when they are released, I do passionately support them, because unfortunately black movies are still not seen as being commercially viable despite actors such as Will Smith and Denzel Washington having huge success at the box office. When I see a talented black photographer or poet, I actively go out of my way to offer help to promote them because I know it is so hard for them to ‘make it’. People are still asking why do we need the MOBO’s, Britain’s Black Business Awards and the like. Some people say they are racist, as we would not have a white equivalent. Well, until we have a level playing field and not two separate ones, these events are promoting the successes across these industries where black talent is still going unrecognised.
So, I happily admit it, I love black men. I love their strength, their beautifully sculpted bodies, their humour and their intelligence, but I especially like all of this wrapped up in chocolate. I just have a sweet tooth, which does not make me racist; it’s just simply what I prefer.